{"id":42604,"date":"2018-05-11T22:21:44","date_gmt":"2018-05-12T02:21:44","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www-jesselewischooselove-org.s93du7y6-liquidwebsites.com\/?p=42604"},"modified":"2018-05-11T22:21:44","modified_gmt":"2018-05-12T02:21:44","slug":"be-part-of-the-solution-by-sarah-stabile","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/server.peraltadev.com\/chooselove\/be-part-of-the-solution-by-sarah-stabile\/","title":{"rendered":"A Mother&#8217;s Quest to Keep her Child Safe"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>Be Part of the Solution<\/strong><\/p>\n<p>By Sarah Stabile<\/p>\n<p>May 12, 2018<\/p>\n<p>\u201cLove is the only thing that can transcend what is going on here now and we all have the ability to choose love.\u00a0 Love is the ultimate solution.\u201d\u00a0 &#8211; Scarlett Lewis on Choosing Love\u00a0 (<a href=\"https:\/\/vimeo.com\/262479239\">Be Part of the Solution video<\/a>)<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\" wp-image-42612 alignright\" src=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/IMG_5947-2-176x300.jpeg\" alt=\"\" width=\"292\" height=\"498\" srcset=\"https:\/\/server.peraltadev.com\/chooselove\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/IMG_5947-2-176x300.jpeg 176w, https:\/\/server.peraltadev.com\/chooselove\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/IMG_5947-2.jpeg 375w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 292px) 100vw, 292px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>Sunday marks my first Mother\u2019s Day as a mother.\u00a0 It\u2019s a holiday I\u2019ve longed to celebrate for many years.\u00a0 Before my son \u201cJoJo\u201d was born, I didn\u2019t realize I could love one person so immensely. The Mama Bear instinct to fiercely protect my baby was innate. And now that he\u2019s about to walk, (pulling himself up on furniture, cabinets, and walls) I chase after him while simultaneously ordering gates, sliding locks, safety catches, bumpers and socket protectors from Amazon. JoJo loves standing at the top of the stairs holding on to the gate and shaking it like a jailed cage bird. The wooden stairs were recently covered in plush carpeting \u2013 thank goodness.<\/p>\n<p>\u201cWe are born of love, love is our mother\u201d \u2013 Rumi<\/p>\n<p>My husband often rolls his eyes and refers to me as a <em>helicopter Mom<\/em>. (He\u2019s the father of two older daughters). \u201cJoJo will fall, bump his head and cry \u2013 you cannot childproof his life,\u201d warns the <em>experienced <\/em>father.<\/p>\n<p>That\u2019s a true statement.\u00a0 Even though I can\u2019t <em>child-proof<\/em> his life, I can certainly educate myself and teach JoJo how to be resilient, kind and courageous.<\/p>\n<p>Last week, we visited a nursery school where I asked the Admissions Director about their safety protocol and whether they have a social and emotional learning program?\u00a0 She explained the school has a safety protocol and team. They do not have a social and emotional learning program however; they would love to hear more about the Jesse Lewis Choose Love PreK and Toddler program (upcoming).<\/p>\n<p>Many people ask: <em>How can I can be part of the solution to create safer schools and a more peaceful world?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I did a lot of research and came up with 7 simple things:<\/p>\n<ul>\n<li>Download The Jesse Lewis Choose Love social and emotional learning curriculum and\/or the At Home program. Thanks to the generosity of private donors, the program is available at NO COST and is downloadable by class level (PreK \u2013 12<sup>th<\/sup> grade): <a href=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/curriculum-downloads\/\">https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/curriculum-downloads\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Print the formula \u201cCourage + Gratitude + Forgiveness + Compassion in Action = Choosing Love\u201d and post in your kitchen. <a href=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/about-us\/\">https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/about-us\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Print the Choose Love monthly calendar with specific daily action items, such as: \u00a0\u201cHave the courage to help someone in need, Say Hello to a Stranger, Change Every Negative Thought to a Positive One\u2026\u201d and hang in your kitchen, discuss with your family. <a href=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/choose-love-calendar\/\">https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/choose-love-calendar\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Become a Choose Love Promoter by sharing this \u2013 and all of our social media posts \u2013 with your social networks to help spread this message far and wide. Or, to learn how to more proactively introduce the Choose Love Enrichment Program to your schools and community through workshops, fundraisers and more, <a href=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/volunteer\/\">become an Ambassador<\/a>.<\/li>\n<li>Make a donation: <a href=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/support-us\/make-a-donation\/\">https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/support-us\/make-a-donation\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Host an event or fundraiser <a href=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/support-us\/host-a-fundraiser\/\">https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/support-us\/host-a-fundraiser\/<\/a><\/li>\n<li>Download Safe &amp; Sound Schools Straight A Safety Toolkit <a href=\"https:\/\/www.safeandsoundschools.org\/programs-2\/toolkits\/\">https:\/\/www.safeandsoundschools.org\/programs-2\/toolkits\/<\/a><\/li>\n<\/ul>\n<p>After the Sandy Hook tragedy, a committee was tasked with researching and drafting a report that answered the question everyone was asking:\u00a0 <em>How can a gunman walk into an elementary school with assault rifles and murder 20 children and 6 educators<\/em>?<\/p>\n<p>They concluded that another mass school shooting could be prevented if our Nation focused on the following:<\/p>\n<p>1.) Gun Safety<\/p>\n<p>2.) Social and Emotional Learning<\/p>\n<p>3.) Better Access to Mental Health.<\/p>\n<p>Five plus years later, nothing has been done with national gun control legislation.\u00a0 However<u>,<\/u> states have enacted hundreds of gun laws. In 2013, Connecticut made sweeping changes to its gun laws. 150 gun models have been banned; a sale of gun magazines with a capacity of 10 rounds are banned and a permit is now required to carry a weapon.<\/p>\n<p>Our mental health crisis is growing.\u00a0 According to the CDC, 43 million Americans have a mental health condition yet 57% have not received treatment. In a 5-year period, severe youth depression has increased.\u00a0 50% of screeners age 11 \u2013 17 think about suicide or self-harm every day.<\/p>\n<p>I wasn\u2019t well versed on social and emotional learning so naturally, I <em>Googled <\/em>it and discovered:\u00a0 <a href=\"https:\/\/casel.org\/what-is-sel\/\">https:\/\/casel.org\/what-is-sel\/<\/a><\/p>\n<p><em><strong>What is SEL?<\/strong><\/em><\/p>\n<p><em>Social and emotional learning (SEL) is the process through which children and adults acquire and effectively apply the knowledge, attitudes, and skills necessary to understand and manage emotions, set and achieve positive goals, feel and show empathy for others, establish and maintain positive relationships, and make responsible decisions.<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I heard Scarlett Lewis speak a year after her 6-year-old son; Jesse was murdered in his first<u>&#8211;<\/u>grade classroom at Sandy Hook. My Mom gave me her book <a href=\"https:\/\/www.amazon.com\/Nurturing-Healing-Love-Mothers-Forgiveness\/dp\/1401945864\/ref=sr_1_1?ie=UTF8&amp;qid=1526048090&amp;sr=8-1&amp;keywords=nurturing+healing+love+a+mother%27s+journey+of+hope+%26+forgiveness\"><strong><em>Nurturing Healing Love:\u00a0 A Mother\u2019s Journey of Hope and Forgiveness<\/em><\/strong><\/a> and I cried my way through the pages. It\u2019s every mother\u2019s worst fear &#8212; I felt so much empathy.<\/p>\n<p>Listening to Scarlett describe how she transformed Jesse\u2019s message of \u201cNurturing Healing Love\u201d into the Jesse Lewis Choose Love Movement floored me. She described the universal teachings of courage, gratitude, forgiveness, and compassion in action. Teaching children to have healthy and positive relationships, deep and meaningful connections, tools and skills for resilience, caring and concern for themselves and others. \u00a0I realized, WOW, this is the solution to so many of the issues our children are facing today and this is the best way to heal a Nation in so much pain.<\/p>\n<p><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-medium wp-image-42613 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/chooselovemovement.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/IMG_5901-1-225x300.jpg\" alt=\"\" width=\"225\" height=\"300\" srcset=\"https:\/\/server.peraltadev.com\/chooselove\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/IMG_5901-1-225x300.jpg 225w, https:\/\/server.peraltadev.com\/chooselove\/wp-content\/uploads\/2018\/05\/IMG_5901-1.jpg 480w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 225px) 100vw, 225px\" \/><\/p>\n<p>As a new mother who\u2019s concerned about my son\u2019s safety when he goes off to school, I highly recommend you educate\u00a0yourself and ask the necessary questions: <em>Do you have a safety protocol? Do you have a safety team? Do you have an SEL program?<\/em><\/p>\n<p>I have friends (who out of desperation and fear) are pulling their children out of public school and sending them to private. Others are considering home schooling.\u00a0 While these actions may make parents feel better about their children&#8217;s safety, it does nothing to proactively prevent another mass shooting, or substance abuse, or bullying or incarceration. Social Emotional Learning is the only solution that addresses the root cause of violence, and can ensure that our children grow up feeling so connected to one another that they wouldn&#8217;t even consider harming each other.<\/p>\n<p><strong>This Mother\u2019s Day, I invite you to join me in being part of the solution.<\/strong><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>Be Part of the Solution By Sarah Stabile May 12, 2018 \u201cLove is the only thing that can transcend what is going on here now and we all have the [&hellip;]<\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":5,"featured_media":42614,"comment_status":"closed","ping_status":"closed","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_et_pb_use_builder":"","_et_pb_old_content":"","_et_gb_content_width":"","footnotes":""},"categories":[1,33,9],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-42604","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","has-post-thumbnail","hentry","category-general","category-news_post","category-sel"],"acf":[],"yoast_head":"<!-- This site is optimized with the Yoast SEO plugin v21.2 - 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